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Brian Austin Green was 29 when his oldest son, Cassius, was born; his youngest, Zane, arrived in June, just weeks before the actor turned 49.
Speaking to Yahoo Life’s So Mini Ways, the former Beverly Hills, 90210 star and father of five says fatherhood is different from an older father.
“At 49, of course, I don’t have the same physical ability to be as hands-on as I did when I was younger,” Green says, giving credit to his Zane’s “wonderful mother,” dancer Sharna Burgess of Dancing with the stars fame. “Sharna is such a partner in everything that it was just so much fun.”
Green also considers himself lucky that there is no sibling drama within his modern family. In addition to nearly 3-month-old Zane and 20-year-old Cassius, whose mother is actress Vanessa Marcil, he shares Noah, 9, Bodhi, 8, and Journey, 6, with ex-wife Megan UKTN.
“They’re all so obsessed with Zane and just so in love with him,” says Green. “And there’s been no problem with that at all; there’s been no friction in the situation. Things that could have happened naturally when having a baby with someone new — the younger kids I have who struggle with that because there’s a new one is they are not completely blood related on either side – it could have been that hard and it just hasn’t been.from day one they absolutely embraced sharna and now they are embracing zane it was amazing it was really a blessing .”
As for his parenting style, the TV star says that while he’s not afraid to be a disciplinarian, he’s a firm believer in giving his kids the freedom to be themselves.
“I don’t own these kids,” he says. “I don’t want to impose on them my passions or the things that make me me. I enjoy the fact that they are individuals and I really love helping them find the individuality and their passions and the things that bring them to them.” I feel like my job as a parent is to make sure they are morally good people when they grow up.”
His parenting philosophy is this: “Just love your kids,” says Green. “Just accept them for who they are and be loving and kind and supportive in everything they do. Don’t let your own experiences in your own life get in the way of letting them experience and live theirs. Be OK with step back a little bit and don’t micromanage the situation.”
He points to his eldest son Cassius as proof that he has done something right.
“I feel so blessed and I’m so excited to see him navigate the world on his own. When I hear from people like, ‘Oh, I met him, and he’s just an amazing human being,’ I feel like , OK, that’s one down‘ he laughs. “I’ve done one right so far, so four more to go. If he’s some kind of [testament] of what it is that I do and have done, then I am good at it so far. It seems to be working.”
Fatherhood was also a wake-up call for Green to prioritize his health so he can be there for his kids. Since his early 30s, the actor has suffered from ulcerative colitis, an inflammatory bowel disease that can cause inflammation and ulcers in the digestive tract and is linked to an increased risk of prostate cancer, although he admits he hasn’t always been proactive about undergoing treatment. annual screenings. He is now partnering with Depend on its Stand Strong For Men’s Health campaign, where a portion of the proceeds from sales will be donated to the Prostate Cancer Foundation from now through the end of November.
“I wouldn’t have taken my health so seriously in terms of annual screenings and stuff,” admits Green, who recently did a prostate-specific antigen (PSA) test as part of the campaign. “And there was a little bit of stigma for me doing a prostate exam because it just felt very invasive at the time. But that was before this PSA test that’s possible now; it’s a simple blood draw.”
Prostate cancer is diagnosed in one in eight men in the United States, and it’s something that Green says “can affect myself and my family and my kids — and I personally want to be here for them as long as I can.”
Although Green says his ulcerative colitis only flares up every two or three years, a particularly debilitating episode occurred midway through Burgess’ pregnancy earlier this year. The teen’s former heartthrob was bedridden for over six weeks and lost 20 pounds. That, coupled with previous neurological issues Green has faced, has made it important to stay on top of his health.
“I have five children,” he adds. “I’m 49 years old. At some point I have to stop feeling like I’m a superhero and like nothing is going to affect me.”
—Video produced by Kat Vasquez
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