Father defended for refusing to pay for daughter’s fourth marriage: “Waste”


Members of a popular internet forum rallied behind a father who refuses to fund his daughter’s fourth wedding.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA******, Redditor u/ComprehensiveNet1149 (aka the original poster or OP) said he had paid for the 32-year-old’s first three marriages — and it clear that he has no plans to do it again.

Titled, “[Am I the a******] because I told my daughter I will [not] help her with her next wedding?” the post has received nearly 8,000 votes and 2,000 comments in the last 12 hours.

Beginning with the reveal that his daughter has “already been divorced three times,” the original poster details his contributions to each wedding and laments the different lengths of each marriage.

“She married the love of her life at age 25. I gave her $15,000 to help with the wedding,” OP wrote. “She married the love of her life when she was 30. I gave her $5,000.

“She married the man who got her pregnant while she was married [number] two,” continued OP. “They divorced before my grandson was one.”

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Continuing to explain that his daughter had once again met “the love of her life,” the original poster said he had been asked to contribute money for another wedding ceremony, much to his dismay.

“I said I would [not] help her with the next one,” OP wrote. “Now she’s crying to her mom calling me a ****** because I don’t believe in her future.

“I managed to stay married for 33 years. It’s not that hard,” OP added. “My wife wants me to make peace by giving her some money. But I think it’s a shame.’

Weddings, big or small, are an occasion to celebrate love and unity between two partners and two families.

Man considers paying for his daughter’s wedding. Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA****** forum defended a man who expressed reservations about contributions to his daughter’s fourth wedding.
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Weddings are also expensive, so much so that 90 percent of couples are putting aside other financial priorities to afford the perfect party, according to the 2021 Weddings & Money Study, conducted in conjunction with Brides and Investopedia.

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While average wedding budgets in the US hovered around $20,000 in 2021, couples contributed an average of $7,250 in cash savings before turning to investments, credit cards, and relatives for extra help.

“At the end of the day, weddings are paid in different ways, and there’s no one way that the bill is split,” Brides editor Gabriella Rello Duffy told me. News week.

“For some, it’s one or both families sharing the bill; for others, it’s the couple paying themselves,” Duffy added. “It’s most common now for couples to receive a certain contribution from one or both families and then pay for the rest of the wedding themselves.”

However, despite the widespread expectation of home help, there are often limits to what family members can provide.

And during the comments section of the viral Reddit post, many Redditors assured the original poster that he’d already provided more than enough to not feel obligated to fund his daughter’s fourth wedding.

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“Was your comment insensitive? Kind of, but that doesn’t make it untrue,” Redditor u/grid101 wrote in the top comment of the post, which has garnered more than 14,000 upvotes.

“$20,000 over three weddings is fine,” she added. “She can pay her own way now.”

Redditor u/g3l33m, whose comment has received nearly 3,000 upvotes, echoed that sentiment.

“It sounds like your daughter thinks you’re an ATM machine,” they remarked. “Tell her to run away next time… and the next time after that.”

“She’d better have a wedding at the courthouse… and host a big renewal ceremony SELF when she gets to 10.” [years]added Redditor u/pepperann007. “She’s clearly just in love with the idea of ​​love.”

“You’ve already paid for two weddings and she’s all grown up with her own kids now,” chimed in Redditor u/vercingetafix, getting nearly 2,000 upvotes. “If she wants to get married again, she can foot the bill this time.”

News week has contacted u/ComprehensiveNet1149 for comment. We were unable to verify the details of the case.

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